Let me set the scene: It's the Vanity Fair Oscar Party and E! correspondent Alicia Quarles (African-American) is interviewing celebs on the red carpet. Mindy Kaling (American-Indian) stops on her way inside to give an interview and part of their conversation goes a little like this:
Quarles:'So who's your type?
Kaling: 'Who's my type? Good looking,'
Quarles: 'Okay, so any color?'
Quarles: 'Girl, kiss some Black men on that show.'
Kaling: 'Oh, I have and I will. It’s something people can look forward to.'
Hmmm. This racist-ish interview... will be addressed another time.
Have you ever been asked what your racial preference is when it comes to dating?
I have. A lot.
It seems like an innocent enough question but it's weird that it even matters.
What I have discovered is that a lot of my friends think I "belong" with someone outside of my race. I've been told that I should date white men because black men can't "handle" me.
I've been told I'm the kind of black girl that should be dating a white guy.
What kind of Black girl can handle a Black guy? What does that even mean?
It irritates me that because of my personality, people feel I'm somehow not right for a black male. But at the end of the day, I have to remind myself I don't care.
Because guess what? I am an equal-opportunity employer.
My preference is HOT. I also like them funny, considerate and good to their families. I like a guy that is just as comfortable at a Kanye concert as he is at a Foo Fighters concert. I like a guy who has morals. I like guys who work hard. And I like them hot. Charlie Hunnam, Idris Elba, John Cho, Diego Luna, God-Bless-Your-Parents-Your-Ass-Is-Fine-Hot.
But it's not a deal-breaker if you're awesome.
At the end of the day if you're with someone you love and who treats you right, does it really matter how much melanin he/she has?